Q:How do you feel about people bed-sharing? I have done it practically since day 1 and I love it, but I tend to get negative reactions about it. However I've read that it is better then having the little one sleep alone. Is there really a better way or does it depend on the person?
Then read through all the resources listed at the end of it. It’s very important to do your own research on these very complicated issues.
Does anyone have an article about safe sleep that they love or an opinion they’re very committed to?
Submission: Post Menstrual Syndrome
Hey, you had a question not too long ago about a person who experienced nausea and fatigue, starting on the last day of their period. I had the same problem. in about December of 2013, I remember getting off my period, and feeling like “woo freedom!” only to get sick. that happened month after month, until about april of 2014. on the last day of my period, I wouldn’t feel well, and about four days after I’d have nausea, diarrhea, dizziness, and severe fatigue. after tracking this for a while, I found out I was getting sick on the last day of my period, month after month. I thought I just had mild flus that were coincidentally happening on my last day. I had round of blood tests, and was even tested for Celiac Disease, but everything came back negative. So I went online and found out that it’s something called Post menstrual syndrome. I told my doctor about this and he prescribed birth control pills, the lowest dose possible. the first month, I didn’t have too many symptoms except mild dizziness. I’ve been taking birth control for 7 months now, and I have no symptoms of Post Menstrual syndrome at all. I recommend they talk to their doctor about hormonal birth control, because that has made a huge difference in my life.
Q:Im 15 and this is awkward but I cant find my clitoris? I know where its meant to be but I cant find it. Should I go to a gynaecologist or doctor or something?
Let’s start with this - read through these recent posts of mine. Then, if that doesn’t help you locate it, make an appointment with your local clinic to see a provider that specializes in DFAB genital health, like an Ob Gyn, a midwife, or a women’s health nurse practitioner (sorry about the language - that’s literally the title of that type of provider).
Great illustration of common DFAB anatomy (tw gendered language)
Sit back on your bed and relax. Think about where you have the most sensation in your vulva. Use fingers or toys or vibrators to find the spot with the most sensation. Use a mirror to check it out - the clitoris will get fuller and bigger during arousal. It may be easier to see it then.
Hope this helps!!!
Q:What does the clinic do with the fetus, after you have an abortion?
Directly after an abortion, the products of conception are carefully assessed to make sure that everything was removed. It can be very dangerous to have a small piece of tissue remaining in the uterus after a birth or an abortion.
After the assessment, the products of conception are carefully sealed and sent to the lab for further analysis. They are checked for many things, such as chromosomal abnormalities or infections. Once the lab report is complete, the remaining products of conception are incinerated as medical waste. It is the same process that everything coming from a clinic or hospital must go through. Removed organs, amputations, blood soaked bandages, etc, must all be incinerated in a very specific way to prevent possible disease transfer.
If someone is 20-24 weeks pregnant and either they have an Intrauterine Fetal Demise (the fetus dies) or they elect to terminate a pregnancy with anomalies incompatible with life, they have two choices. Either they can have a surgical removal of the pregnancy - the same procedure as an abortion - or they can have a “stillbirth induction,” in which labor is stimulated and they deliver a non-viable fetus. After a stillbirth induction there is the option for an autopsy if the parents elect it, and the fetus can be claimed for burial by the family. Otherwise it too will go to medical waste to be incinerated.
I hope this clears things up.
Q:I know it's rare, but I was just curious, how is it possible to have twins with different fathers, or twins of different races??
It is definitely very rare, but I actually had a friend who was conceived a month later than her twin.
See, one thing we always joke about with pregnant people is that well, at least you don’t have to worry that you’ll get pregnant, now! That’s because there’s a system in place to stop your body from ovulating while it’s pregnant. It would be pointless to keep ovulating even though you’re already pregnant.
However, sometimes people’s bodies don’t get the message and they keep ovulating, releasing eggs once a moth even though another baby is already incubating. In this situation, a second egg could potentially be fertilized and implant into the uterine wall at that time. And since we all know that you don’t have to keep having sex with the same person for the rest of your life it’s perfectly possible that the second egg is fertilized with someone else’s semen. That person would therefore have a different genetic make up and the twins could potentially look extremely different, even though they were grown in the womb at the same time.
Q:1/2 Approximately once a month, at the beginning of my menses, I get discharge from one of my nipples. Always the right one, the left one's inverted. It's tinted green, and I only get a couple of drops. I talked to my OB in the States about it and she treated me like I was crazy. She also told me to come in when it was happening again. Unfortunately, it doesn't happen every month, and I never know when it's coming. I literally get one or two drops and then it's gone again until the next time
until it happens again. There’s no way to predict when it will happen, but her reaction really scared me. I now live in Canada and am waiting to get on my husband’s insurance before I can have a new PCP. Is there any way to know if this should concern me? How do I explain it better to my next doctor so that they aren’t asking me to do something that isn’t possible?
To being with I want to say that I’m so sorry to hear that anyone would treat you with such disrespect, especially a trained healthcare professional. Especially when it sounds like the nipple discharge you are describing could be a problem.
Let’s first sift between physiologic (normal, or at least not a problem) and pathologic (do to a disease) nipple discharges.
We know, for example, that benign, or not harmful, nipple discharge tends to be:
- from both nipples
- caused by stimulation of the nipple
- comes from multiple ducts in each nipple
- can be clear, yellow, white, or green.
Suspicious nipple discharge, on the other hand, is often:
- from only one nipple
- comes out of only one or two ducts in the nipple
- there is a mass in the breast
- discharge happens spontaneously (no stimulation)
- discharge is bloody or blood-tinged
NSFW photos of nipples below the cut.
Q:On the 28th of September I missed a pill and my boyfriend and I had sex that day. I got my period early on October 6th on a Monday, and I usually start on a Wednesday every 28 days. After my period which was shorter than usual, I have been having a light brown discharge and it's been going on for two weeks. I took a test and it turned out negative, but I don't think I took it at the right time since it was after a period. Could you help me out please?
Hey friends -
I’m sorry to be a downer, but I just thought I’d put a quick reminder out there. No matter how much or how little you tell me about your birth control + sex life, I cannot tell you whether or not you are pregnant.
SO HERES THE THING:
IF YOU THINK YOU COULD BE/MIGHT BE/DON’T WANT TO BE/BUT MAYBE POSSIBLY ARE PREGNANT, TAKE A PREGNANCY TEST.
When to take a pregnancy test:
- When you miss your first period.
- If you don’t have regular periods, take the test at least 2 weeks after you had unprotected sex.
Ok so it was negative. I’m good, right?
- Most likely yes, but my suggestion is always to wait a week and take another pregnancy test, just to make sure that you didn’t take it too early the first time.
Do I have to get the expensive pregnancy tests?
- Nope. The dollar store ones work just as well.
- I suggest buying in bulk. It’s very relieving to have a box of tests sitting in your bathroom for any time that little niggling concern makes it’s way into your brain.
I got a faint positive. Does that mean yes or no??
- Very possibly yes, you are pregnant. But that’s not for sure!
- Wait a week and take another test. The line will either be darker or gone all together.
Good luck everyone! I hope you get pregnant or don’t get pregnant, which ever is the thing you most desire!!
Q:Is it normal to have diarrhea around the time of my period? This always seems to happen...
So there’s this thing called period poop. I know you all know what I’m talking about. It comes right at the beginning of the period each month pretty much like clockwork and it feels so much better once it’s no longer in your body.
Why? Well there are these things called prostaglandins which are little hormone-like chemicals that do different things all over the body. In one fo their functions, they are released from uterine muscle cells and cause “smooth muscle” to contract. What kinds of things are made out of smooth muscle? Well, your uterus for one, your bowel, your blood vessels, your bronchioles, and others. Smooth muscle is different from the type of muscle that you use to pound weights, so you don’t have to worry about prostaglandins causing your leg muscles or arm muscles to contract.
But here’s the tricky thing. When they are released in/around the uterus to cause the uterus to contract and begin the menstrual period, they don’t just stay where they’re put. They can pass right through your muscle and tissue and start working on your bowel as well. That means that your bowel starts constricting and passing feces through it more quickly. Thus, the feces is less formed, more watery, and comes out quickly.
THUS: Period poop. Happy periods everyone!
Q:Is it okay to ware a menstrual cup for the duration of your period (emptying and then replacing it immediately)? Even at night?
- Just pour the blood into your toilet bowl (or a jar so you can water your plants with it later if you’re a weirdo like me)
- Then rinse it out under the sink
- Pop it back in until it’s full again!
- At the end of your period, boil it in your designated period-pot.
Yes, you can use it at night, though if you have a very heavy flow, start with your cup and a pad at the same time to watch out for leaks. Once you have a good relationship with your menstrual cup, you can ditch the pads all together.
Q:My breasts have been itching for almost a year now, maybe more (I'm bad with time). I tried seeing a doctor about it when it got so excessive I had sores all over, basically nothing was done & I've found many reasons to doubt this doctor. The only other thing that is "wrong" is that my nipples seem engorged & tender, but that's only very recently & may just be due to my period. I don't have much money, & I can stand discomfort, but is it serious, do I NEED to do something?
Yes please. If you’re itching through the skin, please see a doctor/midwife/nurse practitioner immediately.
This could be a skin condition or something more concerning to do with your liver or gallbladder, or something to do with the breasts themselves. If you live near a Planned Parenthood, give them a ring. They’ll be able to help figure things out.